Hello again, welcome back to Skye Alexandra House Monthly Newsletter – where you will learn more about what we are up to, upcoming events, question & answer and hot topics.
Updates/What have we been up to?
• We have had our First young person move into Skye Alexandra House, we endeavour to make sure her time with us is empowering, inspiring and she leaves with excellent foundations & skills to have a fruitful life.
• No #DearRemi Video this month, as we have been really busy at Skye Alexandra House.
• A Big Thank –You to ‘SAFER LONDON’ for delivering insightful sexual exploitation training. We love expanding and building on our knowledge at Skye Alexandra House
• Our Founder and Director, Sherica Spence will be a keynote speaker at Harrow Council International Women’s Day event, for their council staff members. Here she will be sharing her Journey, Skye Alexandra House & the amazing work done so far by our team and partners.
• SKYE ALEXANDRA HOUSE OPEN DAY – Please share, tell a friend to tell a friend. On Wednesday 16th March 2016 @ 1pm. Come along & view our semi-independent residential home which provides 24hr care to vulnerable young women aged 16-18.
You can also learn more about other services provided!
To register your attendance, please send your full name and Job role/title to [email protected]
• Inspiring Butterflies Easter Half Term Programme: Tuesday 29th March – Friday 8th April 2016. Taking place at Pop Brixton. 10am-2pm
Workshops delivered by some of our partners include: Opening Up To the True You (self awareness), Exploring and Identifying positive relationships, Kickboxing, Upholstery, Drama, Music, Dance, Sexual Exploitation/Social Media/ Domestic Violence Awareness and Enterprise. With a celebration event at the end!
Inspiring butterflies is open to young females aged 13-17. For more info and to register email: [email protected]
• We will also be holding a fundraising event: DARE TO BE DIFFERENTOn Sunday 10th April @ Pop Brixton. Keep a look out for more info
• We have been awarded funding of £300 from Galaxy Hot chocolate fund for Skye Alexandra House. Keep a look out for the press release on our Facebook page: www.facebook.com/skyealexandrahouse
• Please vote for Skye Alexandra House!! We have been nominated for ‘A National diversity award in the category (community organisations award) href=”https://nominate.nationaldiversityawards.co.uk/nominate/endorse/29697″>https://nominate.nationaldiversityawards.co.uk/nominate/endorse/29697
This months hot topic is on: Self – respect/Saying ‘NO’
I decided to write on this subject as I feel as young women/ladies it is something we need to be comfortable with.
I am 24 years old and now at a place where I can recognise and also identify when I need to respect myself and say No in situations. I do not like to put myself in situations where I may feel uncomfortable and will not be able to say no.
I remember about 3 years ago I began dating this guy, things were going really well and he wanted to take it to the next level. By next level, I mean he wanted to be intimate. (Sex) This was something I did not want to do, and I was able to explain that to him. He wasn’t happy with that I had said and he made lots of attempts to change my mind, eventually he gave up and moved on & we stopped seeing each other.
Yes, it was upsetting because I liked the friendship/relationship I had with this guy and because I rejected his attempts our relationship deteriorated. But at the same time I was proud that I was strong enough to say no & respect my own beliefs and wishes.
Have you ever been in a situation that has made you feel uncomfortable and you have been afraid to say ‘no’?
In regards to sexual relationships and acts we have to always remember we are in control of our bodies. You should never be made to feel like you have to do something you do not want to do. Everyday I tell myself I am a queen and my body is a temple, so when someone comes along that doesn’t treat me in that way, I can move on.
Self – respect is very important.
We have to respect others but also ourselves, our body, our mind & our actions.
We have to respect ourselves by what we do, how we act & what we say. We wouldn’t hurt, bully, pressure and upset those we respect. So we should never allow anyone to do that to us. Sometimes we have to say NO.
We have to learn to say ‘NO’ without explaining ourselves, & remember we only have to answer to ourselves.
Question of the Month
Here is Jays Story:
• This is a real account from a young lady who was a victim of sexual exploitation. Half of our young girl’s don’t know when they are being targeted. Have a look at this video and tell us the signs you have spotted? (in the comments below)
(This video is one we use in our inspiring butterflies workshop)
In The News
• Consultation on a new Child Sexual Exploitation Definition:https://www.gov.uk/government/news/consultation-on-a-new-child-sexual-exploitation-definition
• Child sexual exploitation sings
• Lambeth carer jailed for child abuse
• Husband who abused wife for years finally jailed
• Help and advice whenever you need it
Please continue to send your questions in to [email protected] Subject #DearRemi
As of next month we will also be filming our question and answers through video from Skye Alexandra House.
Q: Hi, Remi. I am struggling with my confidence. In terms of my looks I never feel like I look nice or I am good enough. 21 year old Female.
A: Hello, thank you for sending this in. Self-confidence is very important. It is something I struggled with once too. I understand how you may feel. Especially when we see women/girls on social networks that look ‘perfect.’ I believe it starts with our thinking, if we think positive things about ourselves we often find we start to believe and accept these things too. Our thoughts affect how we feel, our behaviors and our mood. You will never look like anyone else; beauty is in the eye of the beholder. A little tip I will share with you is, write down 5 things you love about yourself and stick these on your wall. When you get up in the morning read those 5 things out loud.
Thank you for reading and all your continued support with Skye Alexandra House, tell a friend to tell a friend about all the positive work we do! Have a great month of love.
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